Ode to Miss Short – and – Might as Well, Miss Caswell

Babu read out loud: “Miss Short embarrassed me.  She called me a tomboy for sitting on the arm of a chair.”  She looked up at me with eyebrows scrunched and lips pouted.  A pointed look.  It said:  “See what I mean?”  Maybe a modern teen would just say “da fuck??”

I’m sending this out as a warning.  I’m sending it to those of you who are joining the education profession because “it was easier than doing something else.”  Or because “you couldn’t get work elsewhere” or my favorite “I wanted summers off.”  You exist.  I’ve talked to you.  I’ve clearly had teachers like this and I hate to admit it, have worked with teachers like this.  Even still, you are not as bad as the ones who become teachers for revenge, to reverse the power they never had against their classmates.

When I teach, I try to be careful of everything I say.  In order to do what I need to do, I have to work hard to pry apart egos to get through while simultaneously never damaging one.  That’s not my job.  My job is to teach, and we all know we teach more than our subjects.  We lead by example and trust me, we need no more bullies.  So don’t be one.  Because if you teach that way your students will see you for what you are and either know it’s wrong or use it against you.

AND when your students are 98, and you’re long gone, they’ll remember your cruelty.  Because you matter to them.

Babu tried to explain to me again today about her teacher.  I prodded her asking her why she wrote so much of Miss Short and not her other teachers.  She said:  “Because she always embarrassed me.”  and I realized I was reading the passages wrong.  Her casual seeming comments about her teacher were noted, and so often, because they stung.  Babu remembered her picking on a boy who sat in the back by the wall, but she couldn’t remember what she picked on him for.  And she remembered she also used to pick on a Polish boy but for what it eluded her.  Both nice boys, Babu told me with emphasis on the word nice, making it take long to say.

But I remember.  She picked on the boy in the back for leaning his head on the wall and leaving grease marks.  She picked on the Polish boy for his stutter and made him read out loud to the class and then point it out.  His stutter!  I remember this because Babu has been telling me these same stories for years and as time is slowly passing for us, she is forgetting what these boys, and herself, were picked on for but she remembers them, their kindness, and their pain at being ridiculed this way.

I remember much more detail about what happened to me in Ms. Caswell’s first grade class.   Maybe when I’m 98 -if I get there – I wont.  Maybe all my memories of students who I created a safe space for will blot out those memories.  They haven’t yet.

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7 Comments Add yours

  1. barbwit says:

    I remember a ‘bad’ teacher – her name has gone – and a ‘good’ teacher, Miss Strange, to whom I am forever grateful for sharing her love for culture.

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    1. That’s beautiful. I should have a different focus, but I can’t remember the name of the teacher I had the next year who was very nice and made me – ME! – student of the week. I wont ever forget that. I’ll remember Ms. C. by name because of the promise I made to myself to make up for her by becoming a teacher myself and creating a SAFE place for all my students. She is partially responsible for the teacher I became.

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  2. Looking back, I sometimes think I had more bad teachers than good, but in all fairness, it was probably evenly distributed between the two. The bad teachers can really leave a mark, but the good ones, as you alluded to, make us better people. I so enjoy your posts. Babu must have been born around the same time as my Mother, 1921?

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    1. She was born 1918. 🙂

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      1. Wow, bless her heart. She’s three years younger than my Dad was.

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  3. mischaralle says:

    So fascinating to follow these trails of another time. Babu is a special person.

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    1. Yes she is! Thank you for noticing. 😊

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